I will not stand by watching parents fail and children suffer

“That’s when I knew I had to find a better way—both for myself and for the parents and children I worked with.”

As I moved into early childhood education, I quickly saw the same outdated parenting tools still in use. Kids weren’t learning; they were resisting. I was using the very same methods that didn’t work for me. That’s when I knew I had to find a better way—both for myself and for the parents and children I worked with.

I set out on a mission to help adults communicate better with kids. I dove into the work of Dr. Daniel Siegel, known for his Hand Model of the Brain, and John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth for their incredible work on attachment theory (which is different from attachment parenting). As I dug deeper into my own journey, I was able to heal my inner child and even reached a point where I truly forgave my mom for not realizing the hurt she caused. Doing that hard work gave me so much hope and fueled my passion to figure out how to consistently build connection with kids instead of walls.

Soon, I was approached by parents with the same question: “How did you get them to do that?” One particular moment stands out—a child was struggling to put their shoes on and leave the classroom. After working with them, they calmly followed directions. Soon after, I kept hearing that same question from different parents, and I began asking myself, “How am I doing this? Is there a pattern?” It was through reflecting on these moments that I discovered the pattern, and from there, the C.L.E.A.R. Method was born. It wasn’t magic! It was just a thoughtful approach to connection, communication, and practice that worked.

“The C.L.E.A.R. Method is a framework that helps parents foster connection and communication in their homes.”

The C.L.E.A.R. Method is a framework that helps parents foster connection and communication in their homes. It’s not about controlling children; it’s about empowering parents to lead their families with understanding and intention. Parents like Cyndi, who thought yelling was the only way to manage her household, discovered how agreements and conversations could take the place of shouting matches. Now, when frustrations arise, she turns tense moments into opportunities for connection and growth.

Parents like Steph felt stuck in a cycle of permissiveness, but through the C.L.E.A.R. Method, she shifted from feeling resentful to empowered. Small victories—like her daughter putting her shoes away without a fight—became the proof that her new approach was working.

Many parents come to me feeling overwhelmed and unsure, stuck in patterns that aren’t working. They’re either too permissive and fear losing control or too authoritarian and fear crushing their child’s spirit. Dani was torn between being too soft or too firm with her strong-willed son, not knowing how to strike a balance. Before we worked together, she feared that no matter what she did, she was messing up. But once Dani learned to embrace her son’s emotions, their relationship transformed into one of mutual respect and understanding.

The journey to better parenting isn’t easy. It requires a willingness to unlearn old patterns and try new approaches, which can feel uncomfortable at first. Chelsea struggled with managing her own anger, fearing she was passing her struggles on to her daughter. But through the C.L.E.A.R. Method, she learned how to regulate herself and create a calm, supportive environment for her family. Today, Chelsea and her daughter communicate clearly, and their relationship has become one of trust rather than tension.

The shift from old tools to the C.L.E.A.R. Method isn’t always easy. Parents often come to me after trying quick fixes they’ve found online, only to discover that those tips and tricks don’t work long-term. Bridget is a perfect example. She had been on the positive parenting side of social media for four years, following all the fast advice and techniques that promised quick results. She believed that with a bit of effort, things would naturally improve in her household.

But that wasn’t the case. Despite her best efforts, Bridget still faced uncontrollable outbursts from her son, leaving her feeling lost and overwhelmed. Six months after consuming the free content I provide, she still wasn’t seeing the change she wanted. That’s when she invested time and money into my online parenting courses that go deeper than a social media post could do.

Once she started putting in the work—watching the videos, journaling, and understanding the foundations—Bridget realized this approach was different. She began responding instead of reacting and started to see her son’s behavior from a new perspective. Bridget gained more confidence that she was in control of she could control, herself. By practicing the C.L.E.A.R. Method, the outbursts nearly stopped, and she developed a calm, authoritative parenting style in which she felt confident.

“For Bridget and other parents, working with Be Kind Coaching was their last stop.”

For Bridget and other parents, working with Be Kind Coaching was thier last stop. The support she received from the community and myself allowed her to let go of all the other content and “shoulds” in her life. Outside pressure no longer overwhelms her because she knows she has the right tools and community in her corner.

My work with parents is like a group fitness class. I’m not a parent. I’m here to guide, adjust, and support. I understand the importance of shared experiences and provide a space where parents can come together, learn from each other, and practice new approaches. Cyndi, Steph, Dani, and Chelsea all started their journeys feeling unsure and overwhelmed, but they took the brave step to seek support. They put in the hard work, and their families are thriving because of it.

While I may not be a parent myself, I know how critical it is for parents to feel supported, heard, and understood. That’s why I’ve created a community where parents can grow, learn, and practice without judgment. Just like a trainer helps people improve their form in the gym, I’m here to help parents refine their approach to family life—offering guidance, adjusting techniques, and celebrating the progress they make.

“The transformation starts with parents, and I’m here to walk alongside them on that journey.”

The transformation starts with parents, and I’m here to walk alongside them on that journey. They lead the way, and I offer the tools, space, and support needed for them to create lasting change in their homes. It’s not about being perfect—it’s about showing up, trying again, and discovering new ways to connect with their children daily.