March 20, 2024

Coach Parenting: Raise Resilient and Confident Children

You might be feeling a little lost right now; why don’t these humans that you love and adore not listen to you the first time? You know what is best for them, and you know them so well, why can’t they just listen? That is where coach parenting or a parent coach comes into play.

Yes, it is a profession, and yes, it is a game changer!

Raising resilient and confident children is something every parent wants. Navigating the challenges of modern parenting can often leave us feeling overwhelmed and unsure. That’s where coach parenting comes in. It roots into positive psychology and effective communication strategies.

In this comprehensive guide, we’ll explore the principles and techniques of coach parenting, equipping you with the tools to foster resilience and confidence in your children. From fostering a growth mindset to promoting emotional intelligence, we’ll delve into the strategies that nurture their development and empower them to overcome obstacles.

What is Coach Parenting?

Coaching for parents is a way for you to have someone in your back pocket supporting you. Empowering you to develop the skills, mindset, and confidence you need to navigate life’s challenges. Research shows being raised with a traditional authoritarian or permissive parenting style damages the child and your relationship. These are the tools that you are working from; maybe that doesn’t feel right to you. As a parent coach, I teach positive parenting skills that emphasize collaboration, effective communication, and fostering independence.

At its core, coach parenting draws from the principles of positive psychology. Seeking to enhance well-being and promote personal growth. It encourages parents to adopt a coaching role. Guiding their children toward finding their own solutions and learning from their experiences.

Using a Coach in parenting is not about being a perfect parent or having all the answers. Instead, it involves creating a supportive and nurturing environment.

An environment that you and your children can develop:

resilience
problem-solving skills
strong sense of self

By adopting a coach mindset, parents can become facilitators of their children’s growth and development, helping them build the necessary skills to thrive in a rapidly changing world.

Understanding the Importance of Resilience and Confidence in Children

Resilience and confidence are two crucial traits that can greatly impact a child’s overall well-being and success in life. Resilience refers to the ability to bounce back from adversity, adapt to change, and persevere in the face of challenges. It is a key component of mental and emotional well-being, enabling children to cope with stress, setbacks, and failures.

Confidence, on the other hand, is the belief in one’s own abilities and worth. It plays a significant role in shaping a child’s self-esteem, motivation, and willingness to take on new challenges. When children feel confident in themselves, they are more likely to embrace:

opportunities for growth
explore their passions
develop a positive outlook on life

By nurturing resilience and confidence in our children, we lay the foundation for their future success and happiness. They become better equipped to handle the inevitable ups and downs of life. Heal through traumas.

The Role of Coach Parenting in Building Resilience and Confidence

Coach parenting plays a vital role in building resilience and confidence in the parents. By investing in a coach, parents can be supported in an environment that encourages them to learn from failures and develop a growth mindset.

A growth mindset is the belief that abilities and intelligence can be developed through effort, practice, and learning. When adults have a growth mindset, they understand that their abilities are not fixed and that they have the power to improve and grow through their efforts. This mindset promotes resilience by coaching parents to embrace challenges, persist in the face of setbacks, and view failures as opportunities for learning and growth.

Effective communication is another essential aspect of coach parenting. As a parent coach, I teach my clients how to actively listen to their children, ask open-ended questions, and provide constructive feedback; parents can create a safe and supportive space for open dialogue. This encourages children to express their thoughts and emotions, develop their communication skills, and build a strong sense of self-awareness. Through these interactions, parents can guide their children toward understanding their strengths, values, and goals, further enhancing their confidence and resilience.

Nurturing Emotional Intelligence Through Coach Parenting

Understanding Emotional Intelligence

The parent’s emotional intelligence is a crucial skill that can greatly impact a child’s overall well-being and success. It encompasses the ability to recognize, understand, and manage one’s own emotions, as well as the ability to empathize with others and handle social interactions effectively. By nurturing emotional intelligence through coach parenting, I support parents with the tools to navigate the complexities of their emotions and build strong relationships. This is where the lines grey between therapy and a parent coach; a trusted parent coach will teach about emotional intelligence and guide you to seek more professional help if necessary.

One of the key aspects of coach parenting is fostering open and honest communication with our children. This involves actively listening to their feelings and validating their emotions, even when they may seem irrational or insignificant to us. By creating a safe space for our children to express themselves without fear of judgment, we encourage them to develop self-awareness and emotional regulation.

Connection is one of the 5 steps of the CLEAR method, and the most skipped step, that I teach in my online parenting classes. a method you can use throughout your day when working with your kids.

Connection only truly happens when the other person feels that connection. A technique that might ‘work’ one day, but it does not work the next. It is the practice of actually slowing down and seeing the situation from others’ points of view.

CONNECTION

Lower Yourself On or Below Eye Level
This helps defuse the tension
Stop Talking; Start Listening
Hold Space quietly
Use 5 Words or Less
Build Emotion Awareness
Self-awareness, Self-Control, Empathy, Motivation, and Social skills

Encouraging Emotional Expression

In addition to creating a safe space for emotional expression, coach parenting involves teaching adults healthy ways to express their emotions. It is okay that we are feeling upset by a situation, but in order to feel proud of how we handled the situation in an hour, we need to be able to navigate stress without throwing red paint on the children in our care.

By modeling these outlets for emotional expression to our children, we not only help them develop a deeper understanding of their own emotions but also equip them with the skills to communicate and navigate their emotions in social settings effectively. This lays the foundation for healthy relationships and empowers them to handle conflicts and challenges with resilience and confidence.

Teaching Problem-Solving Skills

Coach parenting also involves teaching parents better problem-solving skills, which are essential for building resilience and confidence in their parenting. This then leads the parents to allow the children in their lives to solve their own problems; the adult can guide them through a step-by-step process of identifying the issue, brainstorming possible solutions, evaluating the pros and cons, and making a decision. This approach encourages critical thinking and empowers our children to take ownership of their problems.

It’s important to remember that mistakes and failures are valuable learning opportunities. We should embrace these moments and help our children, and ourselves reflect on what went wrong and how they can improve in the future. By reframing failures as stepping stones to success, we instill a growth mindset in our children, teaching them that setbacks are not permanent and that they have the ability to overcome challenges.

The impact of coach parenting on child development

Coach parenting and having a parent coach to support you has a profound impact on the holistic development of parents and their children, nurturing their emotional, cognitive, and social growth. By fostering a supportive and empowering environment. This approach encourages adults to take ownership of their actions and learn from their experiences, laying the foundation for lifelong success. Ultimately, coach parenting equips adults with the tools and mindset they need to thrive in an ever-changing world.

Overcoming challenges in coach parenting

In coach parenting, challenges are inevitable, but they also present valuable opportunities for growth and learning. By adopting a proactive and flexible mindset, parents can navigate obstacles such as resistance from their children, conflicting parenting philosophies, and societal pressures. Utilizing effective communication, setting clear boundaries, and prioritizing self-care are essential strategies for overcoming challenges and maintaining a positive parent-child relationship. Embracing these challenges as part of the parenting journey fosters resilience and strengthens the bond between parents and children, ultimately leading to greater mutual understanding and harmony within the family dynamic.

Resources for learning more about coach parenting

Online Parenting Classes: Parenting is no easy task. It’s a journey filled with ups and downs, challenges, and triumphs. Thankfully, the internet has made it easier for parents to access resources and support that can help them navigate this transformative journey.

Parenting Books: A portion of the books that I have read and the foundations for the positive parenting methods and strategies that teach and coach.

Embracing coach parenting for raising resilient and confident children

Investing in a parent coach offers a transformative approach to raising resilient and confident children. By learning principles of positive psychology, effective communication, and fostering independence, parents can create a nurturing environment where the parents and children thrive. Through a commitment to continuous learning, open communication, and a growth mindset, families can cultivate strong bonds, empower themselves and their children to overcome challenges, and unlock their full potential.

“I can’t recommend this enough. Every time I revisit this course I learn something new for whatever stage my kids and I are in at that time. This work with MegAnne has improved my family relationships, work relationships, friendships, everything!” ❤️ ~ Quillin

I wasn’t sure how or why, but I had drifted apart from my 5 yo and felt very little connection to her. I was either scared of or resented her. I didn’t know how to “control” her-What do you do when your child, for no apparent reason, lies down in the middle of a grocery store kicking, screaming, and crying?

I asked her incredible preschool teachers and other trusted parents for help to deal with her tantrums and meltdowns over the years, but all of the well-intentioned advice only provided piecemeal, temporary solutions; nothing stuck. But I felt stuck and defeated and was in tears when I had my consultation with MegAnne.

MegAnne listened to me without judgment that day and at the end, she said something that turned a light switch on for me: “If your daughter is given the right tools, she will be unstoppable.” Right then, I understood that it was my job to help cultivate and nurture my daughter’s growth into an emotionally and socially responsible adult. It wasn’t about

“controlling” her but understanding her and her many complicated feelings, and providing her a safe and trusted environment to come into her own.

It is not dramatic to say that working with MegAnne changed our family’s lives. We no longer just survive but thrive and feel like an emotionally-connected team. There are still tantrums and strong feelings, but it’s incredibly empowering as a parent to help your child work through them so she can come out stronger, and become a more understanding and compassionate person, on the other side. I cannot recommend Be Kind Coaching enough. Every parent and child deserves to have a coach in their corner!

The Wise-Pho Family, ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

We can’t say enough amazing things about Be Kind Coaching.

My husband and I were at a breaking point when we reached out to MegAnne. Our five-year-old son’s out-of-control behavior was exhausting and scary. Every little thing was cause for a meltdown, and his anxiety and anger left us feeling defeated and resentful. We didn’t know what to do and were worried we had waited too long to ask for help.

Enter Be Kind Coaching. Through weekly meetings and chats, MegAnne was able to help us understand the “why” behind the behavior and develop strategies to help each other and our son. MegAnne is a fantastic listener and is never judgmental or pushy. The sessions were tailored to our parenting styles and personalities.

She wasn’t there to “save the day” but to empower us. I used to feel like it was us vs. our five-year-old. Now, I feel like the three of us are a team. Thank you, MegAnne!

The Leach Family, ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

My son (5) was easy. My daughter (3) has a big personality. We had a summer that was filled with fun adventures/vacations, and I came back depleted and defeated. My hope of spending positive time with my kids was actually spent fighting with them. I started working with MegAnne to stop fighting my kids and start coming up with new strategies for enjoying our family time.

At first, it did not make sense to me to give a three-year-old a choice, but I learned she is strong and wants to feel validated. She did not, before. But now, when she feels big emotions, she just says, “Mommy, I am sorry – I need a hug!”

After working together, we now have a much healthier- equal relationship. I thought I had to be the hammer. Now, we give them choices with natural consequences. It is so much more equitable. It is not perfect, but it has given the kids a voice. Even my husband is learning tactics that work for him.

I LOVED the fact that I never felt judged. MegAnne does not have hard and fast rules for anything. She taught me to appreciate my family, all of them for who they are. And I learned about myself, too.

I feel like I am a better mother because of MegAnne, and I appreciate everything. The good, the bad, and the ugly – I know if I love the kids and help them feel heard, then we will be OK!

The Jones Family, ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Our biggest challenge before calling MegAnne was the daily struggle of battling our strong-willed son. Daily struggle leads to a life of feeling defeated and sad.

After working with MegAnne, our family is able to take daily struggles and approach them from a more successful angle. We still have battles- as every family, but we are now able to be more positive and quicker to address things.

When I feel like we are moving backward, MegAnne is right there to hold space, enabling us to get back to the right mindset – I love that we still have ongoing support from her.

Since the first day we met MegAnne, I have been such a huge fan. Her knowledge and big heart amaze me whenever I talk to her or listen to her videos. I feel like our family is now better off spending time with her. I could never thank MegAnne enough for her knowledge.

Our family was at a very low point with daily fights, making us feel like we were out of answers.

When I first called her, I knew she got me. There was never a situation or struggle that she couldn’t help us learn from. I pray that other families will find MegAnne.

The Miller Family, ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

MegAnne came into our family’s lives at a difficult time. She proved a force of positivity and joy and offered a wealth of resources and experience just when we needed it most. To provide context, at the time, we were first-time parents of a one-year-old and balancing two careers. Our daughter was transitioning from babyhood to toddlerhood. For us, this meant learning to discipline in loving ways that fit our overall parenting approach of connecting with our daughter, listening to her, and setting respectful limits.

The changes we saw in our daughter as MegAnne cared for her were evident. MegAnne respectfully modeled ways for young toddlers to learn skills such as cleaning up, gentle touch, and clear communication.

Through example rather than preaching, MegAnne taught the whole family skills to work through trigger points of disagreement. For example, our daughter struggled with being washed after eating; MegAnne involved her in the process, and the fight dematerialized. Our babysitter also noted the “miraculous” changes in our daughter’s approach to difficult situations. These miracles were simply the results of MegAnne’s work!

MegAnne was also a useful sounding board for first-time parents and came equipped with a wealth of resources to pass along in gentle ways. Her approach was to begin at the place of strength she saw in our family, respectfully listening to our daughter, which helped me see what we do well. MegAnne’s modeling of behavior then enabled me to see where I needed to draw more limits to help my daughter be liberated from impending chaos.

In the brief three and a half months we worked together, she supported the family emotionally, physically, and with rich resources. She is gifted, hardworking, and devoted to helping healthy family relationships blossom. She is also among the kindest people I have known, which is to say, she practices what her business promises!

The Meier Family, ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

The Be Kind Coaching Online Parenting Classes are life-changing!

MegAnne is positive and real, and from the very first class, I felt encouraged and empowered. I have read many parenting books and blogs, and I find it hard to translate them into daily practice within our family. However, through her parenting courses, we got to work through our examples using the information and the strategies that MegAnne teaches – her delivery of the material has been far more effective for me than anything else I have tried.

This class came to me at the time when I needed it the most. My child was having some difficulties at school, and a friend posted about how amazing MegAnne is, so I took the leap and couldn’t be happier that I did

MegAnne does such a great job of facilitating the online group sessions with people I have never met and who live half the world away from me; it felt like a supportive family. Many, many thanks to my friend who posted about the class, to MegAnne, whose impact is already being strongly felt in our family and will continue to be, and to my classmates for sharing and caring.

The Diener Family, ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Where to begin… I was in the midst of a lot of life chaos and struggling with how to parent and help my little one manage her emotions while I was so overwhelmed with my own. Big revelation:

PARENTS ARE PEOPLE! They have their own stuff going on AND have to make sure they keep a small human alive (at minimum) and ideally help turn them into a really fantastic big human. That’s a pretty tall order!

I have been following Be Kind Coaching on IG and FB and found the content so engaging, practical, and encouraging. One particularly rough morning, one of MegAnne’s posts resonated so hard that I reached out and scheduled a 1-on-1 session. It was everything I never knew I needed! She dropped so much knowledge that I almost thought I had everything figured out!

Then… the next morning, the usual rush out the door and school drop-off dramatics happened, and I found myself doing the same old thing yet expecting different results. In case you didn’t know, this is actually the definition of insanity. And I felt every bit of it.

I have gotten (and still get) so much value out of the online parenting classes she offers and the tools provided. I was SO excited to have the opportunity to have a sense of community and accountability with ongoing coaching. When I am able to participate, it is so comforting to share in the experience with other parents who were also putting themselves out there and saying, “Help! What I’m doing is not working! And it’s making me feel like shit!”

Finding MegAnne and Be Kind Coaching has basically proven to me that people come into your life for a reason. It was what I needed when I needed it. It provides me another level of confidence, patience, and forgiveness – not just in my parenting but in myself simply as a person.

I guess this is my long-winded way of saying… YOU SHOULD DO THIS. If you are visiting this page, you are probably feeling frustrated or overwhelmed or guilty or (likely) all of the above (and then some). Let Be Kind Coaching into your life and learn how much stronger you and your family can become.

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